I Didnt Realize My Mom Was Clueless Until I Had a Kid. My mom was always a superhero in my eyes. She was the quintessential working mom who was somehow able to climb the ladder in her career and make sure her kids had a home cooked dinner every night. She never missed a school play or a softball game or forgot my favorite shirt that always had to be clean even though I wore it constantly. Although I knew my mom had always wanted to be a grandmother, she was polite enough to refrain from pressuring me overtly about having kids of my own. But with her only other child more preoccupied by his career and serial dating than by starting a family, I knew that as the stable married gal, I might be my moms only chance to fulfill her dreams of becoming Nana. I, on the other hand, didnt always know I wanted to be a mom. Perhaps in no small part because society told me that as a lesbian I shouldnt. But somewhere around my 3. Supreme Court justices and my biological clock aligned and forcefully led me down the fertility path. T4Ak9ILN1iE/0.jpg' alt='Clueless Game Full' title='Clueless Game Full' />Doyel Pointing fingers at clueless T. Y. Hilton and the hopeless Colts. Colts receiver T. Y. Hilton We got to take some pride up front and block for Brissett. As niche and specific as TV has become in recent years, theres one group of people who are always shafted parents, especially in sitcoms. It seems every other show. I always thought my mom was a superhero. But when I had my own kid, my mom completely changed. I became pregnant without too much fanfare. More Things No One Tells You About Having a Baby. I was so excited to tell my mom we were expecting. I knew she had waited for this moment for years, as she watched all her friends and siblings and cousins become grandparents. Although at first I had trouble understanding her response when I told her, I came to understand her attitude as cautious celebration. My mom was so excited about becoming a grandmother, she was afraid to let the emotions out in full force because it didnt seem real. It was almost as if she didnt want to jinx it. As the due date drew nearer, my moms excitement grew. She took us shopping and bought beautiful nursery furniture. She talked about how she would be ready to run to the hospital the moment she heard I was in labor. I had warm, fuzzy thoughts thinking about my mom holding my baby, and I felt reassured that she would be there, right from the beginning, to teach me the mom ways and impart her wisdom about how to care for a newborn and how to be a good parent. But when I actually had the baby, it was a whole different ball game. Sure, my mom was incredibly excited to be a grandma and couldnt help but bring gifts every time she came to visit. But something really strange happened It was like my mom became a different person or maybe just that the person my mom really was all along was finally revealed to me. Clueless Game Full' title='Clueless Game Full' />More 5 Types of People Youll Meet as a New Parent. I couldnt put my finger on it, especially through all those early sleepless nights and hormone surges. But what I did know was that my mom was not the mother and grandmother I knew and wanted her to be. My mom was in fact clueless. For the first three months of her grandsons life, she refused to hold him. She wouldnt change his diaper or feed him. She never offered to watch him for a couple of hours so we could, say, get a nap in or go out for a meal or take a walk around the block to catch our breath sans baby. When the baby cried, my mom freaked out, which only made him more upset. And then, a few months in, when she finally held him for the first time, she was completely awkward. She didnt know how to support his neck. She tried to feed him, but she didnt know to tip the bottle up. Five months in, she tried changing a diaper and somehow ended up putting the poop filled diaper back on. Possibly because of all this or because my mom is so uncomfortable with him or for other unknown reasons entirely, my baby does not like my mom. Electro more. You really should learn to socialize him, my mom will say, as if we are somehow hiding him in our embrace eternally and refusing to share him with others. I dont have the heart to tell her hes pretty good with just about anyone but her. What Makes Gilgamesh Accept His Destiny. More Hate Todays Politics How to Teach Kids About Tolerance. The whole conundrum is completely baffling. Presumably, I was a baby once, and my mom had to care for me rightDidnt my mom in fact raise two children Could someone so easily forget how to keep a baby alive Or had she always been clueless and Ive been the truly clueless one all along because I had no idea I havent had the heart to call her out on her discomfort with my kid or ask her whats going on. Im not sure if Im more concerned that Ill burst her bubble and upset her or whether Ill learn she was just as incompetent with me when I was a baby. I dont know how we arrived at a place so sadly divergent from where we expected to be, but I wish my mom might one day be the grandma I know she wants to be to the grandson I know shes always wanted. Download Buku Teknik Sipil here. I dont know how well get there, but I hope we will.